Being on lockdown isn’t something that is going to happen again in our lifetime so I want to do something to remember it before our lives go back to “normal” again. So, as we approach what I hope to be the final 3 weeks of lock-down I have decided to document some things as a memoir of COVID-19.
Lockdown has been full of reflecting and wondering for me; I have thought about a lot of things and have spoken to Sy about some things I was keeping locked up inside too. One of the conversations we had was about having another baby. I have always wanted more but we decided, with the lifestyle we want, it is best to stick to a family of 4.
At the beginning of lockdown I was looking at other people’s social media posts and I caught myself thinking “we should do that/try that/ make that/bake that” then I looked at my little family, all happily engaged in an activity of their choice and thought, actually, we are OK doing what we are doing. Social media can sometimes trigger anxieties in me so I have hardly been on it to browse in the last few months. My daily average time on social media has actually dropped!
When lockdown started I thought it would be a good opportunity to post ideas of what we do as a homeschooling family. I mean, it was a no brainer right, every family in the country was forced into homeschooling! However, it didn’t take me long to realise these two things:
- I wasn’t fast enough – there were already so many mums, teachers, home schoolers giving their ideas and suggestions, even I was feeling overwhelmed by it all, I had to turn my phone off a few times and we have been homeschooling for 2 years already!
- What we do is quite boring! How could I possibly suggest fun learning ideas for families who have been unexpectedly put in this situation, not out of choice, may I add, when we don’t actually do those activities in our own home!
I mean, who really wants or needs to know how to play with Barbies or how to watch a tweenager make TikTok videos all day? Or how to juggle these 2 things while also making dinner, keeping the house relatively clean, and listening to my husband talk about the UFO show he watched last night all while wondering if I will ever find time to have a bath and read that book I bought myself when I thought 2020 would be my year for self care! One things I did post about though was to try and just connect with your children. This is something we all find really hard in our normal, busy everyday lives so lockdown has been a perfect opportunity to do it.
Lockdown for us has been pretty uneventful, We were already used to being together, especially since our month long trip to Costa Rica in January, we homeschool anyway and work from home!! We didn’t go out panic buying toilet roll, we just stuck to our weekly meal prep and shop.
Rayne has found lockdown and social distancing the most difficult out of us all. She is a very social child and likes being around people and out and about. She tried climbing out of the window during the first week when she saw her friend from across the street playing outside. After a few weeks she started to understand why we as a family chose to stick to the guidelines and she stopped having breakdowns every time she saw the same neighbours have visitors and BBQ’s in their garden! However, when she saw the protesters on the news campaigning for their rights to freedom and chanting “our choice” in relation to catching the virus, she declared at dinner she wants to start her own local campaign! She actually had quite a good argument and demonstrated good debating skills!
Rose on the other hand has been in her element. She didn’t really like going out much to start with. She is quite happy playing all day long, stopping intermittently for some booby! I think she is going through a growth spurt as she has literally not stopped eating and none of her leggings fit her!
In a way, lockdown has really helped us get organised with setting up our new business, I have never had so much time to myself, even though I have been working during that time, not watching Netflix or reading in the bath! Luckily I love what I do so that helps. I have had really productive days and also some really, I have no motivation whatsoever days too.
It has really helped us appreciate where we live. We live on the coast and have a couple of amazing beaches on our doorstep so our daily exercise has consisted of walking down to the promenade and back. We even found a secret beach we hadn’t seen before in the 14 years of living here. It is only visible and reachable at low tide. Rayne and Rose enjoyed exploring caves and we found a starfish too!
I know this time has been a complete nightmare for some people for lots of different reasons and the news of a further 3 weeks has been hard for some but I have noticed a lot of people mention how it has been a kind of blessing in disguise, how they have reevaluated what is important in life and how they are going to make changes once this is all over. I feel as a family we were already well on our way to making those changes and perhaps this is why lockdown hasn’t been such a big deal for us. I am not saying it has been easy as we have had some really tough days and trying to set up a business in the middle of a global crisis is no fun! What I mean is, we were already making a conscious effort to be more connected with each other and were used to being in each other’s company all day.
Writing in a diary is something that has always helped me, especially during tough times in my life. That’s why I enjoy writing a blog so much! Sometimes it is difficult to start writing so I come up with questions to ask myself. I am sharing 5 questions in relation to lockdown and I invite you to to answer these questions to look back on in the future and to hold yourself accountable for the things you want to change before life goes on after lockdown. I have provided my answers under each question but you can keep yours a secret. Please feel free to share them with me in the comments if you want to:
What have you learnt about yourself during lockdown? Such as, your personality, how you manage in a time of crisis, how you deal with stress and uncertainty and what can you do to change/grow?
It was the fourth week in the supermarket, happily following the arrows and staying 2 metres away from the other shoppers and staff when I realised how quickly I conform to the rules!
I switch off from all the things I can’t control and concentrate on the things I can control.
Social media makes me anxious and I would rather live in ignorant bliss, getting essential updates from Sy, who watches the news at least once a day.
I prefer face to face contact and I do not have many friends!- I haven’t really connected with anyone since being on lockdown, other than my mum who i video message every day
What things did you do (as a family) during lockdown that you would like to continue? Such as, playing board games, cooking together, reading more etc
We are really enjoying our daily walks. We are so lucky to live on the coast, we have done more exploring in the last 2 months than in the 14 years we have lived here! It has been a great way to connect with the kids as well as get some exercise and fresh air. We really want to continue this after lockdown.
What things did you do (as a person) during lockdown that you would like to continue? Such as, more self care, baking more, reading more, going for daily walks etc
I recognised that I really need to make a conscious effort to do more of these things for myself. I put myself last and need to stop this
What aspects of your “normal life” do you want to change or remove? Such as busyness, stress, spending habits etc
How will you start to implement these changes?
We were already on our way to making changes before lockdown began to enable us to be more connected and do what we love. We spend hardly any money, except for food – we spend a lot on food!
Sy and I need to be more disciplined with managing our time so that we have a good work/life balance including family times where we are doing things fun together
What did you learn about your priorities in life? Are they different now?
As a family we are on the right track but I do need to find more time for self care.
I hope you are all doing OK and find these questions useful at this difficult time.
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