While travelling to gym in the car yesterday Rayne asked me a series of questions: “did you teach me to walk?, did you teach me to talk?, did you teach me to eat?” I answered “no” to each question then explained that I gave her the opportunity to walk by allowing her to go on the floor and explore, I gave her the opportunity to talk by talking to her and responding to her when she talked back and I gave her the opportunity to eat by putting food in front of her and allowing her to watch me eat. I then explained that she taught herself to do all of those things, I just helped facilitate her learning. We talked about how nobody really teaches us to do things but ourselves.
People ask me questions on a daily basis about how I teach Rayne and Rose at home; do I follow the curriculum?, do we work through exercise books?, how do I know what to teach them? The answer is always this:
I don’t teach my children, they teach themselves
Through experiencing what Rayne went through in school (before we started home education); all the anxiety, developing a fear of failure and being afraid to try new things in case she made a mistake, I learnt that the most important thing is that she understands learning is fun, it is everywhere and it is never ending. This week her biggest achievement was finally blowing a bubble with her bubble gum! We talked about how nobody “taught” her how to do it, she learnt through practice and perseverance. Rayne was really proud of herself and quoted neuropsychologist Dr Rick Hanson by telling me that her neurons were firing and wiring together! Any doubts I had about our home education journey (yes, I get them sometimes) were taken away right there.
I truly believe we are building the foundations she needs to go on and explore, make mistakes and have a passion for learning, without teaching her!