When Rayne was a baby I spent hours and hours in a blacked out room trying to establish a set bedtime. I tried cry it out for about a minute and knew that wasn’t going to work for us so my option was to sit in the room with her until she eventually fell asleep. I even did this in the day to establish a nap time. What was I thinking?

I was much more relaxed with Rose, she basically just slept when she wanted to!

Until recently, Rayne found it really difficult to self regulate and fought sleep to the core, she often had purple bags under her eyes but she was “NEVER tired”! Was this a result of all the sleep training we tried when she was a baby or just a coincidence? As for Rose, you guessed it, she has always declared when she is tired and ready for sleep or just asks for booby!

At the beginning of the summer, when the clocks changed and the nights got lighter, I had just finished reading the girls their bedtime story in our family bed and they were jumping on the bed, clearly not ready to sleep.  I selfishly wanted them quiet so that i could read my book and couldn’t bare the thought of spending an hour in a dark room waiting for Rayne to eventually fall asleep (as she is not yet ready to fall asleep by herself).

Our family bed

So an idea came to my mind and I told them that it was quiet or sleep time in the family bedroom now and if they wanted to carry on playing they had to go to their own bedroom until they were ready to go to sleep.  With disbelief in their eyes, they quickly jumped off the bed and left the room, before I had chance to change my mind and tell them to “lay down and go to sleep!”

I sat happily in bed reading my novel, it felt soooo nice and there was no stress or shouting.  It didn’t take Rose long to come back in and lie down beside me, within minutes she was fast asleep. Rayne took a bit longer, she came in once the sun had gone down and she too was fast asleep within minutes.  No stress, no shouting and no taking hours in a blacked out room, result! We pretty much stuck to this routine for the whole of summer and as the nights are growing shorter again, they are falling asleep earlier.

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I am a mum of 2 daughters. I recently gave up my 9-5 job of 14 years to home school my children. My dream is for my family to become world schoolers, travelling around the world and learning as we go! I love blogging about our life, sharing our wins and fails. I hope some of the things I blog about inspire you along the way